Are eight years since I started this blog and four years since my last post. During these years I was always in a search, a search for my style. I've changed the layout , the appearance and the content of this blog more times than I can remember. It was maybe because people around me kept telling me 'that's not your style, I can't see you like that, I can't imagine you like that' or even about themselves 'oh, I can't wear this or I can't be seen wearing that or listening to that kind of music ...'. I mean all that's left these days is creating an image of yourself, of your life, style and even if you like something you will just ignore that or stop doing that because of what people might think. Why? Just because you don't want to be perceived in a certain way? I think that's one of the biggest mistakes that someone can do, trying to find the personal style and in the meantime trying to please people or even care about what they think. This is going to be a long post, but I really have a lot of things to say on this matter.
I don't usually wear dresses, not because I don't like dresses, but jeans are more practical for the job I'm having. A few weeks ago I went by work wearing a simple black skirt and a tshirt, a simple black tshirt. My job requires wearing black. Anyway, most of my coworkers, especially women, actually only women because guys are finding it normal, kept telling me that wearing a skirt or a dress is just not my style. ??? I wasn't surprised to hear that, because are so few things that are still surprising me lately, but it did pissed me off a bit. It wasn't the fact that someone took the liberty to comment on my look without me asking for her opinion, it was the fact that people are taking the liberty to tell you what your style is. My style is whatever I like, whenever I like. Why? Because I'm the only one who can dictate what I'm going to wear. It's my body, my life and I'm not going to waste another freaking second thinking or considering what others might think or say about me. Another thing that I find absurd is telling a woman that wearing skirt is not her style, cause that's what the situation was about. Who's style is it then? If as a woman I look 'fake' wearing a skirt, than who's going to look real wearing it? I don't have to be delicate like a snowflake to wear a dress. I can have a strong will and personality and still wear a skirt or floral, pink or whatever. I'm a woman. I don't see anything wrong wearing a freaking dress. I don't see anything wrong with men wearing dresses. I mean a man has the right to dress whatever he likes too, because women are wearing pants. I'm a human being and because I don't owe my life to anyone, I'm going to be and wear whatever I want. Also, because I like so many things in this world, I'm giving myself the right to show that and to not give unnecessary explanations to anyone. Free speech is free speech and we all have the right to say what's on our minds, but we shouldn't mind when someone will ignore us the next time when we open our mouths to say something stupid.
As a conclusion, after so many years, after so many mistakes, I can say that I found 'my style' and that's a free one, a freestyle.
Thank you for taking the time to read! :)
I wish you all a very nice day and a free life!